A New Relationship
Ezekiel 18 2 “What do you people mean by quoting this proverb about the land of Israel: “‘The parents eat sour grapes, and the children’s teeth are set on edge’? 4 “For everyone belongs to me, the parent, as well as the child—both alike, belong to me. The one who sins is the one who will die.” You are no longer in a second-hand relationship with God. The relief & the responsibility. You are now under oath. The relief … there are things attached to your family that you cannot control. Each family member has created their reputation and it is attached to the family linguae. When I was younger I was identified as “so and so’s sister” ... THE IRRITATION! Yes, that is my brother but that is not my identity. Teachers would recognize my last name and recall my brother and his behavior. I was instantly set apart and monitored because of his actions. We are completely different people, especially in school. When we separated schools, I was so relieved. I had my own identity with my reputation. I was no longer cast out because of his actions. The relief. Now, the responsibility. Imagine the first 48. When criminals and their accomplices are caught they instantly start talking. They will tell stuff that the police are not even asking. They are either trying to avoid jail or reduce time. Judgment by Christ will not work like this. We will be judged for our righteousness and our sin alone. There is no sin shifter. The blame game does not exist. Walk it like you talk it or be punished for your actions. It is simple. 20 The one who sins is the one who will die. The child will not share the guilt of the parent, nor will the parent share the guilt of the child. The righteousness of the righteous will be credited to them, and the wickedness of the wicked will be charged against them. Imagine the guilt of your parents as a bookbag. Sometimes we strip the bag on tight and hold on. The guilt feels a void of wondering why. The shame feels a void of their love. We carry things that we can no longer fit. The season of shame that we were in is gone. Let that bag go. Free yourself! Free yourself! We carry second-hand embarrassment, anger, burdens, trauma, etc. The mistakes that our parents made haunt many of us. We allow their decisions to weigh on us. Free yourself. Their decisions are theirs alone. We cannot fix their lives or live for them. Pray for them and keep pushing. What your parents did to you is not your fault! This is the one! It is not your fault!! The way they mishandled you is not your fault. The way they mistreated you is not your fault. The way they loved you is not your fault. Their actions are theirs own. Their absence is not your fault! Free yourself.